Im inspiring others, divorce cards

[Seahorse]

I got chatting to this maker on Folksy who makes divorce cards and explained a friends situation
This is the result

http://www.folksy.com/items/779585-S...-card?shop=yes

[claireybear]

!!! I didnt realise people sent cards in that situation!

[Critchley]

Ouch. More than a bit pointed. Did you send it?

[nattynetty]

Imagine if the man didn't know that was the reason his wife left him - what a way to break it to him

[Christa]

There are a number of sites who have for some time been selling cards for the unthinkable...and most are blunt. While the idea is bright and funny the reality of receiving such a card is possibly not.
Divorce cards generally are gaining in popularity, as are divorce cakes - some of which are fabulous ...but I believe specifics are possibly best avoided.

Although the customer buying the card might think its a ripping idea at the time, personally I wouldn't want my name associated with something that could be seen as cruel by the recipeint or others who see it...so I will leave it up to those whose brand is built on blunt messages.

[Cuckoos Nest]

Sorry but I hate it, and I hate the idea of making a supposed 'joke' about such a sad occasion.

[bodrighy]

Ouch!! I am afraid that this grates with me. If I sent anything it would be a commiseration card. Divorce rates as a bereavement in counseling terms.

Pete

[nattynetty]

You'd have to know the person you were sending it to VERY well to choose a card like this and I don't think anyone (even the most insensitive men) would send it to someone devastated by the event. However, there must be some couples in this situation who part on very friendly terms and have a sense of humour about these things (if you don't laugh you cry) and it could be appropriate in those situations.

[MornieG Jewellery]

I find the card a tad insensitive. On the other hand a friend of mine had a divorce party and all the cards were of this kind ( not the lesbian bit ) but then she expected it by celebrating the event. Mo.XX

[Seahorse]

We choose cards that are appropriate for the recipient.
I bought a birthday card recently from a shop that said 'bring on the botox'.I wouldnt have got it if I thought it would upset my friend.
It may be in bad taste to some but to others it could bring about the laugh they needed.
Divorce is ideal for alot of failed marriages, some people are very happy to get out of a marriage and in this case should have never have been in a male/female marriage.
There were no children involved luckily.

[Seahorse]

Why is it insensitive?It has a clear sentiment on the front, why is taken as insensitive or funny?

[Fluffy Squirrel]

Personally this isn't to my taste.

A relation of mine was married to what he thought was the love of his life, had three children and when their youngest daughter was about six years old she found Mummy in bed with her 'lover' while Daddy was at work - yes she was a lesbian in denial, hence marrying her childhood sweetheart through fear of being rejected by her extremely religious family. As you can imagine husband and children were devastated and took a long time to get over this.

I personally don't think that this is something to celebrate and no matter how well I knew the couple I certainly wouldn't send a card like this to them. Even if someone 'acts' like they are ok about this and acting happy about the divorce - who's to say how they really feel when they're alone behind closed doors?

I find divorce cards insensitive and wouldn't send them... but maybe that's just me.

[nattynetty]

A relation of mine was married to what he thought was the love of his life, had three children and when their youngest daughter was about six years old she found Mummy in bed with her 'lover' while Daddy was at work

What on earth was that woman doing in bed with her lover (male or female) when she had a 6 year old in the house in the first place???????????? But that's a completely different can of worms.

A friend of mine dines out on the fact that her ex fiance (male) left her for her previous boyfriend! Not something I'd want to shout about but she's perfectly fine with it and says she'd rather laugh than wallow in it and does tell an amusing take on it all Similarly another friend is now best friends with her ex-boyfriend and he even gets on with her girlfriend. However, a friend's mum left his dad for a woman and his dad found it very very difficult to deal with.

Everyone's different and everyone reacts in different ways, no point viewing things as black and white. Personally I wouldn't send a card like that but I'm pretty sure the first friend I mentioned would've loved something like that and seen it with the humour it was meant.

[Fluffy Squirrel]

What on earth was that woman doing in bed with her lover (male or female) when she had a 6 year old in the house in the first place???????????? But that's a completely different can of worms.

Indeed... her excuse was that her then hubby was working nightshift and the children should have been in bed. For crying out loud, everyone can get up through the night - there's no law against it.

Even now a few years on her children struggle to have any contact with her and the youngest went really off the rails at school, etc. It was horrible to see - a beautiful, academic little girl turn into an out of control, emotional wreck who couldn't trust anyone and refused to communicate with people, at just six years old. It was so so sad. The elder two children coped a lot better (they were both early teens) but now they want very little contact with their mum.

She openly admits to her children (and anyone who'll listen to her) that she should never have had children nor been married as she never wanted either and only did it cos it was expected. Thankfully the children have wonderfully supportive family around them and they are coping much better now but I honestly don't know how anyone could put their own children through such trauma. I refuse to have anything to do with her now as her attitude to those innocent children disgusts me... her sexuality is no issue for me, but her disregard for her children is a big issue.

Sorry rant over

[Seahorse]

Telling her own children she should never have had them will clearly mess them up.What a horrid woman for saying that to them and stupid for getting married.
You rant away, she sounds awful.