OK folks, this is nothing at all to do with crafting but comes as a result of an argument/disagreement with a close friend.
He has been unemployed for around a month now after being sacked from his last job as an hgv driver after the lorry was broken into while he was on a break, anyway since then he hasn't found a new job and I have my suspicions that he hasn't really been looking - but that's not my problem.
He will be 29years old on Thursday and lives at home with his mum and grandma, where he pays nothing towards the food, bills, upkeep of the house, etc and has never had to buy his own cars, road tax, insurance or mot as his grandma does it all for him. Even when he was working he contributed nothing to the household.
Anyway, since he has been out of work his grandma has been paying his bills for him (repaying gambling debts) which is nearly £600 per month and his mum has been keeping his car filled up with petrol which I appreciate that most people would do for their offspring if they were in the financial position to help.
BUT... what I don't agree with is that three nights a week his mum/grandma are paying for him to go out playing ten pin bowling and his mum is giving him money two or three times a week to go golfing. In addition to this they are keeping his mobile phone topped up with credit and giving him 'pocket' money to do as he pleases with.
Anyway, he phoned me about an hour ago and asked what we were doing tomorrow night to which I replied "nothing much" and he said, he knows that we can't afford to go out but he thought we'd be doing something. So I explained that we have bills to pay and are not in a financial position to go out and would not rely on someone else paying for us to go out to **** money up a wall... to which he went off on one accusing us of being bitter and jealous that our families are not offering us money to go out.
I have always been brought up to believe that neccesity comes before pleasure and that priorities should be made to our household, etc and if I want to go out then I budget for/set aside the money out of my own finances, not to rely on someone else's handouts.
He cannot see anything wrong with taking money from his mum and grandma as his defence is that they are offering it, he is not asking for it, but my point is that when they are already bailing him out with his bills, petrol, phone credit, golf and bowling to an average of almost £300 per week and will be doing for the foreseeable future, then surely he should have the decency to say no to taking money to go to the pub/clubbing?
Am I in the wrong for not seeing it from his point of view? Is he in the right with his "they offer I don't ask" argument?
I just wondered what everyone elses views were on this cos it's really winding me up
Sorry to ramble on!!
LJ xxx
He has been unemployed for around a month now after being sacked from his last job as an hgv driver after the lorry was broken into while he was on a break, anyway since then he hasn't found a new job and I have my suspicions that he hasn't really been looking - but that's not my problem.
He will be 29years old on Thursday and lives at home with his mum and grandma, where he pays nothing towards the food, bills, upkeep of the house, etc and has never had to buy his own cars, road tax, insurance or mot as his grandma does it all for him. Even when he was working he contributed nothing to the household.
Anyway, since he has been out of work his grandma has been paying his bills for him (repaying gambling debts) which is nearly £600 per month and his mum has been keeping his car filled up with petrol which I appreciate that most people would do for their offspring if they were in the financial position to help.
BUT... what I don't agree with is that three nights a week his mum/grandma are paying for him to go out playing ten pin bowling and his mum is giving him money two or three times a week to go golfing. In addition to this they are keeping his mobile phone topped up with credit and giving him 'pocket' money to do as he pleases with.
Anyway, he phoned me about an hour ago and asked what we were doing tomorrow night to which I replied "nothing much" and he said, he knows that we can't afford to go out but he thought we'd be doing something. So I explained that we have bills to pay and are not in a financial position to go out and would not rely on someone else paying for us to go out to **** money up a wall... to which he went off on one accusing us of being bitter and jealous that our families are not offering us money to go out.
I have always been brought up to believe that neccesity comes before pleasure and that priorities should be made to our household, etc and if I want to go out then I budget for/set aside the money out of my own finances, not to rely on someone else's handouts.
He cannot see anything wrong with taking money from his mum and grandma as his defence is that they are offering it, he is not asking for it, but my point is that when they are already bailing him out with his bills, petrol, phone credit, golf and bowling to an average of almost £300 per week and will be doing for the foreseeable future, then surely he should have the decency to say no to taking money to go to the pub/clubbing?
Am I in the wrong for not seeing it from his point of view? Is he in the right with his "they offer I don't ask" argument?
I just wondered what everyone elses views were on this cos it's really winding me up

Sorry to ramble on!!
LJ xxx
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